A LOVING APPROACH
Birthmothers are people. People have feelings and people make mistakes.
God is a God of mercy, compassion, grace, and forgiveness.
As Christian adoptive families we can choose to have a loving perspective or a critical perspective concerning birthmothers.
A critical perspective would include any of the following comments and much more--but why record them all?
That birthmother is a sleep-around.
Hasn't she figured out what causes pregnancy?
She's pregnant and doesn't know the name of the birthfather, what a sl-t.
Well, all we want is her baby and don't care what happens to her.
Why are birthmothers so sensitive--they can get pregnant?
Can't these girls figure out what causes pregnancy?
We want to see her photo before we will commit to a 'match' with her--we want to see what she looks like.
Why does the birthmother need counseling and support?
A loving perspective would be any of the following comments and more--we could go on and on.
Thank God the birthmother chose life for her baby.
We don't know what her situation is and how she became pregnant, but we will pray for her.
Whatever the circumstance, God offers forgiveness and so do we.
We are so thankful that our birthmom is giving us the privilege of adopting her baby.
We will be forever grateful to our birthmom and the gift she has given us.
As Christians that endeavor to love like our Lord Jesus Christ, we do care about what happens to our birthmom and we will continue to pray for her in the years to come.
We understand that birthmothers are sensitive--because they are people just like us.
We are thankful that the baby that our birthmom is carrying will one day be our child to love.
We don't care what our birthmom looks like--God looks only on the heart and so do we.
We cannot fully understand the trauma or state of mind of our birthmom and we will gladly do whatever she needs to help her with this placement.
No one has walked in the shoes of another person--so how can we possibly understand the why's and how's?
We are commanded to THINK NO EVIL (I Corinthians 13:5), to SPEAK NO EVIL (Ephesians. 4:29), and to WALK IN LOVE (Ephesians 5:2) towards EVERYONE.
God's Word clearly states: Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that is may minister grace unto the hearers. (Ephesians 4:29)
Birthmothers are people. People are never to be used, but rather to be loved.
As Christians may our conduct and our conversation reflect our Lord Jesus Christ.
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