Hope deferred maketh the heart sick: but when the desire cometh it is a tree of life.

Proverbs 13:12

Is your heart sick because your hope is still deferred? Many adoptive couples experience a heart that is sick with despair and a deep grief that their deliverance is still a hope--a deferred hope. The good news about these possible realities is that your heart's condition is normal. God's Word teaches us that hope that is deferred does make the heart sick, BUT that when the desire comes--IT IS A TREE OF LIFE! That's pretty hard to grasp when all that your heart is feeling is sadness, but over and over and over again we hear the same comments. Comments from those that have successfully adopted and/or become parents by God's miracle of a successful pregnancy.

"I could never have imagined it was so wonderful to finally become a parent."

"I had no idea how good it could be."

"It is worth every tear I ever shed and every effort we ever made."

"We finally have gotten our 'smiles' back. I didn't realize how much we were just pretending to smile."

"I would go through all the pain and heartache all over again to experience this joy."

"Becoming a Mom is unbelievable. I never imagined I could love a child so much."

"Every bad experience and every sleepless night we spent in worry has been worth it. Now we have sleepless nights with our baby and we LOVE it."

"No one can explain or even come close to defining what it is like to finally hold YOUR baby and know it's forever."

The verses in this section of Proverbs (chapters before and after Proverbs 13) are all either opposites of each other in each verse (…but…) or they are the same truth presented twice in the same verse (…so…and…). God marks His Word with figures of speech and these verses are significantly marked with figures of speech. Figures of speech should cause us to stop and take notice--they're the "flags" of His Word so we will sit up and thoughtfully consider what is recorded.

Often the hopes of Christians are easily dashed because they misplace their confidence and hope in people rather than in God. Whenever we invest our hopes in people, we will most likely be disappointed.

Hope deferred maketh the heart sick: but when the desireth cometh it is a tree of life. Proverbs 13:12 KJV

Our desires come when and because we choose to faithfully trust in our great God. We choose to continue to pray and to wait upon Him. We choose to place our hopes, our dreams, and our full confidence in our Heavenly Father, who cannot lie and who changes not. We choose to remain steadfast, howbeit shaky at times, to rely upon Him for our every need.

Perhaps these verses will encourage you to hope in Him.

The Lord will guide you always, He will satisfy your needs in a sun-scorched land and will strengthen your frame. You will be like a well-watered garden. Isaiah 58:11 NIV

The Lord says, I will guide you along the best pathway for your life. I will advise you and watch over you. Psalm 32: 8 NIV

Seek His will in all you do, and He will direct your paths. Proverbs 3:6 NLT

Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, "This is the way; walk in it." Isaiah 30:21 NIV

When I pray, you answer me, and encourage me by giving me the strength I need. Psalm 138:3 TLB

Don't worry about anything; instead, pray about everything; tell God your needs…  Philippians 4:6 TLB

For the eyes of the Lord are on the righteous, and His ears are open to their prayers. I Peter 3:12 NRSV

In those days when you pray, I will listen. You will find me when you look for me in earnest. Jeremiah 29:12-13 TLB

Cast your cares on the Lord and He will sustain you; He will never let the righteous fall. Psalm 55:22 NIV

He heals the brokenhearted, binding up their wounds. Psalm 147:3 TLB

Come to me, all of you who are weary and are carrying heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28 NLT

You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book. Psalm 56:8 NLT

Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint. Isaiah 40:30-31 NIV

The Lord's loving kindnesses indeed never cease, they are new every morning; great is thy faithfulness. Lamentations 3:22-23 NASB

For the Lord will be your confidence. Proverbs 3:26 NRSV

The eyes of the Lord search the whole earth in order to strengthen those whose hearts are fully committed to Him. II Chronicles 16:9 NLT

The Lord is my strength, my shield from every danger. I trust in Him with all my heart. Psalm 28:7 NLT

I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. Isaiah 41:10 NIV

When you pass through the waters I will be with you and through the rivers; they shall not overwhelm you. Isaiah 43:2 NRSV

Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart. Psalm 37:4 NIV

My soul melts from heaviness; strengthen me according to your word. Psalm 119:28 NKJV

Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you. I Peter 5:7 NIV

God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Psalm 46:1 NIV

I call on the Lord in my distress, and He answers me. Psalm 120:1 NIV

So don't get discouraged and give up, for we will reap a harvest of blessing at the appropriate time. Galatians 6:9 NLT

The Lord is my rock, my fortress, my deliverer. My God is my rock in whom I take refuge. II Samuel 22:2-3 NLT

For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11 NIV

For more information please read Sonya and Stacy.

We encourage you to follow God's loving guidance.




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