SCHOOL DAZE
August 2000
It happens every year.
The first year I thought God's well had run dry. The second year I was a bit panicky. Last year I began connecting the dots. This year I knew it was coming.
Every year--at this time of the year--our leads and contacts slow down. From about early August to mid September, the phone rings less, the E-mail is lighter, and adoptive couples waiting to adopt begin to get nervous. VERY nervous. I hear it in their voices when they call. I read between the lines of their E-mail messages. I sense the wave of worry within the CA family. It is real and it is tangible--BUT--it is temporary.
I didn't understand the magnitude of the whole school thing, until this year. And this year, our Danielle started school--only afternoon kindergarten, but nonetheless SCHOOL. The whole process of registering, buying school supplies, meeting the teacher, learning the delivery routine, rearranging the already 'maxed to the limit' day, and the challenge of picking her up--along with a gillion other parents---all takes time. It requires adjustment and it demands attention.
So it is with every pregnant college student, high school student, and mother with school age children that has an unplanned pregnancy. Each of these women have a myriad number of responsibilities, adjustments, re-organization of their lives, and stuff to figure out. AND at this time, finding their ideal adoptive couple is not at the top of their 'to-do list'. On the heels of SCHOOL DAZE, comes Labor Day with more travel, plans, and re-arranging. By mid-September, lives have become more predictable and birthmoms begin getting serious about an adoption plan.
What adoptive couples often forget is that pregnant women that are choosing to place their babies, KNOW they are going to be pregnant for 9 months. They don't have to be in any hurry--they have 9 months. Waiting one more day or week or 2 weeks or month doesn't change their physical state of pregnancy. They're pregnant and they know they will be tomorrow, next week, and next month. From their perspective--what's the rush? From the adoptive couple's perspective--why the wait?
So what do you do with your mind and that brain that never stops going--often in roller coaster circles?
It is possible to consider that YOUR birthmom has already read your profile and picked you.
It is possible that once her life settles down that she will be calling you about placement.
It is possible that YOUR birthmom is reading about you today and praying for guidance.
It is possible that YOUR birthmom just conceived YOUR baby and that she is still dealing with her unplanned pregnancy.
It is possible that you are being spared the anxiety of matching/waiting an additional 6 weeks (early Aug.-mid Sept.) before YOUR baby is born.
It is possible that YOUR baby is already born and that YOUR birthmom is exhausting her last option before getting committed to placement.
It is possible that YOUR baby/child is born and that YOUR birthmom is praying for God to give her answers and that YOU are her answer.
It is possible that YOU just cannot figure out God's plan.
It is possible that YOU may not have a clue as to how GOD is going to answer your prayers for a baby.
It is possible that YOU need to pray more and fret less.
It is possible that YOU need to rely on HIS ability and trust in HIS timing, rather than run in frustrating and painful circles in your mind.
It is possible that YOUR birthmom and YOUR baby are the next phone call, E-mail or lead that comes to us.
It is possible.
With God's help it is possible.
With God's help you can deal with the waiting.
It is possible.
For more information please read Example and Continue. We encourage you to prayerfully consider registering with our service, and/or writing to us.
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service ministry. We're helping others in the adoption
process.
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Deborah S. Hill P.O. Box 243 Coffeyville, KS 67337
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