HEART SHARINGS

Written by Sherry.

Names have been changed to protect privacy.

3.04

I remember thinking we weren't "attractive" or "interesting" or "active" or "exciting" enough to a birthmother, and therefore we weren't being chosen. I've always despaired about my "squinty" eyes; wishing them to be larger and thinking of myself as rather plain. But when our son's birthmother saw our profile picture, she thought I was beautiful! She loved my eyes because hers are the shaped the same way! From that moment on I've thanked God for my eyes, they are beautiful! Our birthmother thought, "Oh, isn't it wonderful she has the same eyes I do, so the baby will look like her." Amazing! Our birth parents loved us because of our values: saving money for college, actively involved in our church, our desire to sing and participate in drama, our love for our cat...!

For me, it took a near fatal car accident, to wake up and realize that my purpose in life wasn't to become a mom, but to discern God's will for my life! What a vivid wake-up call!

Deborah, please pass this wisdom on to the waiting Christian Adoption couples:

God will show you the way.

Adoption will happen according to His timing and not, I repeat not, in your timing; no matter how hard you try to make it happen. Some adoptive couples feel if they haven't "matched" by a certain date, they'll go overseas and be guaranteed a baby. No one answers prayer, delivers or guarantees anything except God.

I used to be afraid of birthmothers, thinking they had so much power. But really they're women who given a few big changes wouldn't be birthmoms, they'd be Moms! So, we're in the same boat, just at opposite ends and God is rowing!

God has given me rest and assurance that I'm doing the right thing in prayerfully supporting Christian Adoption.

I feel His hand drawing me closer to Him. God knows the temptations I face in this process, but I know I'm waiting for His perfect gift. We've had no contacts or leads but I'm waiting patiently. I'm ignoring the urge to check the website to see who's "matched". I'm ignoring the urge to compare this experience to our last adoption. I'm ignoring the urge to check our profile for changes or new pictures. I've never been too confident with myself in a photograph so I'm ignoring the urge to compare myself to those who've been contacted and "matched." I choose to celebrate their joy and wait for our perfect call. I'm ignoring the urge to look at stats or to call to ask silly questions.

I trust God and His guidance totally. I've often sat at my computer reading the inspirational Christian Adoption web pages with tears running down my cheeks.

Thank you for this ministry!

Love,

Sherry

(Scott & Sherry are blessed to parent 4 children resulting from the prayers of Christian Adoption.)

For more information please read Example #2. 

We encourage you to follow God's loving guidance.

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