THE ANDERSON MARRIAGE & FAMILY CONSTITUTION
This marital/family constitution was submitted to us by one of our Christian Adoption couples. We hope that you will consider following their excellent example.
(All names have been changed to protect their privacy.)
We recognize that God loves us and will meet all our needs through His riches in glory. We also realize He will work within us to help us through our trials to bless us and develop more of His love within us.
Personality Strengths
Realizing that our differences were a major factor in our being drawn together as husband and wife, we will seek always to keep that "first love" commitment alive by valuing our differences. Additionally, we will actively seek to understand more about the other person’s viewpoint, thought process and natural reactions as a way of increasing our understanding and appreciation. Taking seriously the fact that we are all different, yet important parts of God’s body.
Anger
In our families, we purpose to shut out unhealthy anger with each other. When we talk about issues, we will be slow to speak, quick to listen, and slow to anger (James 1:19). When anger occurs, we will recognize the individual differences among us, but we will not allow the sun to go down on our anger (Ephesians 4:26). And without exception, if we cross the line into unhealthy anger with our tone of voice, words, or actions, we will seek the forgiveness of those we have hurt (Matthew 18:22).
Meaningful Touch
We agree to provide every family member with abundant praise and encouragement, combined with affectionate touch. We pledge to do this consistently, even when our feelings may be in conflict.
Communication
We pledge to take the time to speak regularly about those things that are important to us and our loved ones. We will take seriously their frustrations, fears, disappointments, burdens, and dreams. We further pledge to communicate our love verbally each day. Additionally, we will carve out the communication time our spouses need so that we might find unity, intimacy, and peace in our relationships that God might be honored.
Family Bonding Experiences
We will seek to provide consistent family bonding activities that are not based on money spent, but on time spent together. To do so, we will sit down as a family and find out each person’s needs and likes, and then we will develop as many activities as we can that provide a warm family experience.
Finances
We pledge to communicate the financial needs of our family. We will set goals to establish a budget that we can live with in order to free ourselves from the bondage of poor money management. Both spouses must agree to the budgeted amount. We promise to limit the use of credit cards and never to use money as a way of controlling our family or spouse. Our resources are to be shared in an honoring way and used to further the gospel of Christ.
Business
We pledge to communicate the needs of our family owned business. That we will share the good times, and the hard times, and all decisions together. Additionally, we will always speak kind, and in love to one another, no matter how busy or stressed out we might be at the time. We will show honor by the way we treat each other, and the possessions that God has so graciously gifted us with. We will strive together to build our business to glorify God and to take care of the needs of others. In doing so, we will be walking testimonies for our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. We will treat our employees as family, always attentive to their needs as well.
We agree to believe the best in each other, and to trust the words and actions of one another as honest. If this trust is broken at any time, we agree to restore the trust by confessing the untruths, by seeking forgiveness, and by making any necessary restitution. To God be the Glory…
For more information please read Kansas and Song. We encourage you to prayerfully consider registering with our service, and/or writing to us.
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