CRYSTAL CLEAR BECOMES MUDDY
Written by Deborah.
Names have been changed to protect privacy.
Keeping God first is simple. We're to know His Word, which instructs us in His will, which is right believing. We're to base our thoughts, actions, and decisions upon His truth. We're to love God with our whole heart, soul, mind and strength. Life with God is simple.
But life in this world is often very complicated. The simple things in life can become confusing and convoluted.
"Make a mountain out of a mole hill" is the world's adage.
Christian Adoption encounters some very "helpful" individuals.
God works within birth parent's hearts to make the best possible choice for their child. They choose, due to their circumstances, to place their child for adoption. As responsible birth parents they also choose a 2-parent, stable, secure and loving Christian Adoption couple to adopt their baby.
Then someone with "good intentions" comes along to meddle in their lives and challenge their decision.
This is when crystal clear becomes muddy.
God is able and willing to provide crystal clear guidance to His children.
People often muddy that guidance with doubts, questions, threats, and confusion.
We've seen awesome "matches" fall apart because of social workers, nurses, agency employees, family, friends, attorneys, and doctors that interfered with the willful decisions of birth parents. One could suggest that it must not have been God's will for the "match" in the first place, but we tend to disagree.
God can make His guidance absolutely crystal clear. He is more than willing to move mountains for that guidance to come to pass. But people may be persuaded to stop trusting the Lord and can be moved away from clarity to confusion. Birth parents have been talked out of God's crystal clear instruction and instead followed the advice of an influential individual.
What was once crystal clear becomes muddy because of others that may or may not be directly affected by the adoption process.
*When Janice agreed to an adoption plan, she chose a Christian Adoption couple, but her mother threatened to disown her, because her baby would increase their welfare receipts.
*Tamra was ready to sign legal custody papers, when the hospital social worker appeared and convinced her to keep the baby.
*Nikita knew she couldn't mentally raise another child and she prayed for guidance. She located her Christian Adoption family, but her father demanded she keep her baby, although unwanted.
*Penelope was financially unable to care for another child, but her friends used guilt and condemnation to persuade her to add to her financial burden.
*Karriann contacted us because she wanted to insure that she followed God's direction to place her baby with a Christian Adoption couple. Her chosen couple was her answer, even though her attorney implied he had someone better.
*Shellie knew that she could not handle the responsibilities of parenting by herself, so she selflessly chose to place her unborn baby with a Christian Adoption couple. But an adoption agency told her it was impossible to place her baby independently of their services. They misinformed her about adoption laws and confused the simple adoption process.
*Precious made the free will decision to place her baby with a Christian Adoption couple, even though her physician tried repeatedly to talk her out of adoption.
In each instance, well intentioned individuals offered their advice and made clear guidance become mentally muddy. Christian Adoption prays that our birth mothers will have the courage to follow God's direction and not become confused by muddy advice from others.
Whenever a birthmother seeks God's guidance, she should be prepared to obey His still small voice.
No matter what others say, no matter what the circumstances may appear to dictate--God can make the path plain.
He can part the Red Sea.
He can move the mountains.
He can make a way, where there appears to be no way.
Not only in adoption, but in all of life.
Trusting the Lord is simple: pray, listen and obey.
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We encourage you to follow God's loving guidance.
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